57 Secrets You Didn't Know About Me

Have you ever...?

[X] Been drunk.

[X] Smoked pot

[X] Kissed a member of the opposite sex

[X] Kissed a member of the same sex (I got hit on by a drunk white woman once in July of 2013 on the streets of Manhattan)

[X] Shoplifted.

[_] Been fired (I've been laid off before, does that count?)

[_] Been in a fist fight.

[_] Got hit by a car.

[X] Snuck out of your parents' house (Good times...)

[_] Been arrested.

[_] Been in love.

[_] Gone in a mosh.

[_] Stolen something from your job (Why bother stealing when you could work for it?)

[_] Celebrated New Year's in Times Square

[X] Lied to a friend.

[_] Had a crush on a teacher.

[_] Celebrated Mardi-Gras in New Orleans

[_] Been to Europe

[_] Skipped school (I've only cut classes)

[_] Thrown up from drinking.

[X] Lost an immediate family member.

[_] Played 'Clue.'

[_] Had a sleep over party.

[_] Cheated on a boyfriend/girlfriend.

[_] Been cheated on.

[_] Had a sweet sixteen (I didn't have a sweet sixteen because my grandmother passed away several days before my sixteenth birthday)

[_] Had your tonsils out.

[_] Had a car.

[_] Driven

Do you...?

[_] Have a boyfriend.

[_] Have a crush.

[X] Feel loved (...Sometimes)

[X] Feel lonely.

[X] Feel happy (Depending on my mood)

[X] Hate yourself.

[_] Have a dog.

[X] Have your own room.

[_] Listen to Hawaiian music.

[X] Listen to rap (Sometimes, depends on who it is)

[X] Listen to rock.

[_] Listen to country (Too depressing)

[X] Listen to Reggae (Once in the blue moon)

[X] Paint your nails.

[X] Have more than one (1) good friend

[_] Get good grades (Maybe when I was in junior high school? Does that count?)

[_] Play an instrument (Does 'Guitar Hero' count?)

[_] Have slippers.

[_] Wear boxers

[_] Like the color blue

[_] Like the color pink

[X] Like to read.

[X] Like to write.

[_] Have long hair.

[X] Have short hair.

[X] Have a cell phone.

[X] Have a laptop.

[_] Have a pager.

I hope everyone enjoys this entry and finds it interesting. These are just random facts about myself.

Warm blessings,

Jennifer

Personal Choices

"We believe in personal choice, rather than society dictating how must live our lives." ~ Mike Peters

For some women, it's a personal choice of whether if we want children or not and for most (men or women) who struggle with infertility while other women either murder their newborn or they abandon them at birth or they brave it out through adoption for their own personal reasons (may it be through rape/incest, an "Oops! I'm pregnant!" or they're simply not ready for motherhood) or whatever reason, they know they're healthy enough to conceive. I ended up getting pregnant in 2009, it was hard to pin point when I got pregnant since I've had a history of irregular menstrual cycles (past and present) and when I wanted to go for an abortion, it was too late to for an abortion. For the remainder of my pregnancy, I was depressed, angry, bitter, confused, lost, embarrassed, and a good part of me wanted to die and yet disappear. With my sons father, he had only showed up to two of my doctor's appointments and rest of the time, he'd send me text messages about an hour before my scheduled appointment that he wasn't "able to make it in time." I recently had my OG/BYN appointment this past week and had inquired about contraceptives (to be more specific, the Intrauterine Device or IUD for short), I was told to wait until I was going through my menstrual cycle before I could go for the contraceptives. At first I thought it was rather odd figuring I had just finished my menstrual cycle about several days earlier and never considered having to wait until I have my next menstrual cycle before I go for the contraceptive. I’m going to let all you guys who may be reading this blog that are looking to me for a quick sexual fix (in case if you’re single or already in a committed relationship on where your significant other just isn’t giving you the sexual satisfaction you’re looking for at home), I have had a history of history menstrual cycle in the past and yes, I still experience irregular menstrual cycles which can be scary at times (depending on who I am). I do like children but never had any interested of wanting to be a mom at any given moment in life but over all, I enjoyed my freedom of not having children. I have told people my personal interest of wanting to have my tubes tied, people’s response was: “You may change your mind when you meet the right guy.” And I personally doubt it because I have already made up my mind about not wanting to experience pregnancy, ever. It’s a matter of personal choices we make in life, for example, we make personal choices of being with certain people whether if they’re good for us or not, so choose wisely in who you hang out with and especially for the women who are sexually active because you don’t want to be with the wrong guy if he gets you pregnant then he runs for the nearest exit without return once when you say those magical words: “I’m pregnant.” At press time, it’s something I don’t need and whether if you agree with me or not, it’s my personal decision. It should be my own right to decide for myself.

I haven’t lived life yet but I want to live life, explore the world, gather myself (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially, and as well as career wise), have a clear mind/conscious, being able to feel comfortable but confident in my own skin and figure out what I want in life before I settle down. I want to accomplish something in life with hopes that I can lay my head down at night knowing I’ve made small accomplishments for day and so far, I haven’t made any serious accomplishments. I have trust issues when it comes to men: My biological father was never around much when I was growing up but I knew who he was (he passed away from a brain aneurysm earlier this year) so I’ve never had a father/daughter relationship with him, my stepfather sexually molested me in the early ‘90s while my mother was either in culinary school or in bed sleeping (Yes, my mother has known about this for the last three/four years but she didn’t do shit meaning going to a lawyer for divorce papers or anything, I’m assuming she doesn’t care about me so there is something wrong with my mother) and my sons father bailing on me during my pregnancy. By choice, I chose NOT to get pregnant in the future because I have no desire to get pregnant in the future and on the same token, I am not getting any younger, I want to be able to (try to) enjoy life without the guilt and frustrations. The idea of having my own biological children sounds nice but by choice, I have no deep desire in having to experience another pregnancy in years to follow. Yet, in my own right, it’s my choice, my life, my body, and my decision alone in not wanting to get pregnant in the future.

I can picture people saying: “Just one more!” Deep down, I’m skeptical because of how I emotionally handled my first pregnancy and I was feeling very negative towards pregnancy. If I’m meant to have one child in this life, let it be the way it is and end of story. So far, I’m comfortable with the idea of having one child for now and I have no plans to experience round two of pregnancy any time soon! If I were to change my mind on having another child in the future, it has to be with the right guy and once when I’m established with a steady income, career, as well as being comfortable, confident and secure in my own skin. To me, that’s important with the idea of being/feeling comfortable, confident, secure, knowing where you’re at in life and being completely sure of yourself in your own skin can be attractive without coming off as condescending. Lastly, I’ve been trying to Google search contraceptives (IUD’s actually), so far in my reads, some of the websites mention nada about having the IUD inserted while you’re on your menstrual cycle. I haven’t found anything that answered my question on whether or not if you need to be on your menstrual cycle in order to go for the IUD procedure.

 

Warm blessings,

Jennifer